Love is a wave
I have a light, a neon lamp basically which spells ‘Love’, I motioned the lamp in a wave and captured this deep ( only if you see it) photograph. Kudos to my camera!
Love is a feeling that we are supposed to hold for others if we are conditioned that way. Just like a wave, our feelings including love experience high tides and low tides. Here, I will not talk about love, the one that is being shared between two subjects ( assuming that love can happen not only in humans but animals as well ), but the one that you hold within yourself for yourself.
Talking about ‘Self Love’, how many of you would name you when asked about a list of things and people you love? You’d call your insecurities out, your imperfections, you’re a human after all. But have you ever imagined what happens when you start loving yourself? To this, my younger version would say “ Me neither, pass the bottle”.
Two years ago, my notion of love was limited to receiving love from others and when that notion, harboured from a long time, failed, I hit the rock bottom. This is where my discovery of ‘self’ began. psychology has an entire concept that revolves around ‘self’. Your growth begins the moment you make an attempt to know your ‘self’.
Some fellow humans may mistake self-love for arrogance or selfishness but where in this world has been written that caring for yourself is not a desirable way to conduct oneself in the society? The only person who will be there for you is YOU and what do you do to the person who is always there for you? You love them, respect them and care for them so why are you hard on yourself?
It’s true that you cannot control other’s behaviour towards you but what you can control is if you want to continue receiving that energy from them. When I hit the rock bottom, I developed some strategies and thank god I did.
Strategy 1 – Blocking is therapeutic
In the social media age, following, unfollowing and blocking have become so important that it actually impacts your mental health. When you block someone, you block their energy and their access to your life. Go on block them, you’re not obligated to provide them with a reason.
Strategy 2 – Know your worth
When you know your worth you are able to control what is being subjected towards you. You have a choice to either accept or reject. Reject anything that you believe will cost you your peace.
Strategy 3- Trust your gut feeling
You have a gut feeling for a reason. Listen to it. Majority of times it’s true. When you assess facts, you begin thinking about “what if’s”, that is where your answer lies.
Strategy 4 – Selective Hearing
What you hear impacts your composition. Selective hearing, as the name suggests is hearing everything but comprehending what is important to you, consider the rest a noise.
Strategy 5 – Accept yourself the way you are
Acceptance is the most important step that will lead you to love yourself. Acceptance comes hard and takes time, buy yourself all the time in the world, understand that everything happens for a reason but never stagnate. Keep getting better and achieve your goals.
In the end, Self-love doesn’t come easy. It involves an understanding of yourself, your reactions, your surrounding and ultimately, what you want. Every relationship requires work and effort, ups and downs including the one that you have with yourself. Call out your emotions, communicate!
hence, LOVE is a wave.
Woahh🙌🏼👌🏼
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